Dating in the 21st Century

Good Evening my lovely readers hope you all had a fantastic work day! Well let’s get right down to business on tonight’s topic. I’m not sure about you readers but for me this one is about relationships in this day in age. Why it’s so complicated and everything to get a guy/girl today. Let’s just say I will tell you my experiences about everything as well on top of my opinions just remember everyone this is all opinions. Its how I feel about everything going on in this day and age.

So for starters let’s talk about the different types of places you meet that special person. Since technology is a big part of everyone’s lives you can legit meet anyone anywhere. It could be online, on an app, or the old school way of meeting in person. Let’s just say I have no shame but I’ve done each and every one of them. I’ve had hit or misses in each area. I’ve met one person who I was with for almost three years and was the love of my life before we went out separate ways. That one was a good old online dating website. But today you have apps on your cell phone now just for hook ups. Where are the people looking for the real love? Where are the people looking for the real deal? Not a one night stand. No offense but I’m way to gosh darn old for a one night stand, I’m not looking for a hit it and quit it I’m looking for the real deal. Yes I have no shame in saying I have a plenty of fish account, and a meet me account, hell I even have a Tinder account too but in all of them I’m rarely having no luck. Because people now a days only want one thing and one thing only. I swear I’m not meant to live in this day in age I feel like I’m way too old school to even date in this century. I’m 27 years old and I’m not looking for a one night stand or a hook up or even a friends with benefits type deal. Like women do you like to show ur boobs and ass all over the internet in revealing clothes? Does that make you feel better about yourself? Do you like the attention of guys sending you dirty messages in your direct messages telling you what they want to do to you? I have no idea about you but me no way that shit gets deleted in a heart beat. Maybe it’s because my mother raised me to respect myself and not let anyone take advantage of me. Which brings me to my second topic

Let’s say you swipe right on the hottest guy you’ve ever laid eyes on in the world and you two exchange messages for a few days and then set up a date to meet. So you set up a date for that Friday and you are looking so forward to it that you spend almost all day at work planning the perfect outfit combo in your head before you get home and try it on in person to make sure it looks amazing. Then you spend hours and hours on your hair and make up to make yourself feel good about tonight and hoping and praying that this guy will be the one that will NOT bring up any sexual things. So now it’s time to leave to go to your date and your in the car and your now extremely nervous and you drive up town to meet for coffee. You then meet up with your date and you think everything is going perfect with the laughing and talking and getting to know each other and when the dates over, he walks you to your car and then he goes in for that kiss but its not the normal first date kiss its like I want to get in your pants kiss, and you’ve explained to him that you are no looking for a hook up but I guess it didn’t go through his head. You leave and go your separate ways then he keeps trying to contact you about hooking up and until the point where you don’t answer your phone and then he moves on. But today’s society I feel like no one is looking for an actual long term relationship. I feel like everyone is more of a hit it and quit it type person now. With everything that you see on reality TV mostly MTV you see everyone having sex with everyone but back in the early days of the 90s you would never see that or even consider thinking that.

It’s like you do your hardest trying to find that special person that you want to spend your life with shit let me tell you a brief story about my grandmother and how she got my grandfather. My sassy little grandmother after babysitting back in the early days she would go to the bar after and get pick up by her friend and then she would see this very good looking man across the bar aka my grandfather and she would throw him hints and all of that but mostly what she did she was a very determined little thing and always asked him out until he said yes. Then we go a few years later when she got married to him at the age of 18 and spent many many years together and gave birth to 3 boys and then watched her boys grow up and start their families and see where they grew up to be. My grandparents were together for over 50 years before my grandfather passed away. But that everyone is what I’m looking for in life. I want that type of relationship where if we happen to fight we fix shit and get through it. Divorce is not an option in my eyes. Never will be, if you’re pissed at me you walk away and go cool your ass off and then we will discuss it when your back. This day in age its way to easy for people to break up, or get divorced. In my opinion if you marry someone you marry someone for the better and you marry them to spend forever with them. Not just for a temp gig. You fight with someone you work that shit out you don’t go out sleeping around like your single and come back and pretend that nothing happened. You sit and talk things out, if things need to change you talk it out. You don’t just up and leave whenever you want and think that’s ok.

But dating in this day in age honestly in my opinion it freaking sucks! If I felt like swearing I would have swore instead. I’m the type of person that isn’t looking for a friends with benefits, or a hook up. Give me the damn real thing. Give me what my grandparents had. If I could pick a day in age to date and all of that It would honestly be around the time when my grandparents met because if you think about it they all are looking for love and never once considered or even thought about sex when they were looking for there happily ever after. That was all the last thing on the list it was all about finding that person that you want to spend forever with. So people you honestly need to think about it do you really want to be alone forever and just have sex with random people for the rest of your lives or would you want to find your happily ever after and spend forever with that one special person?

Megan S

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How do you handle your issues?

Good Evening everyone! It’s been quite some time since I have written and a lot has been keeping me from blogging every once and a while but I decided now that I have a bit of time I’m going to sit and take some time and give you a new entry to read weather you really do or not.  It’s up to you if you want to read or not or if you just scroll right past it to someone else’s blog or you just stop reading after this line. But readers I want to hear from you. I want you to get involved, and interact and talk with me about your issues as well. How well do you handle your issues? How do you cope? How do you take your mind off of everything? Do you keep everything bundled up and just brush it aside and let it go?

 

Let’s just say after today I needed to vent about everything at work and at home. Let’s just say you know when you have those bad days or those days you just want it to end and never come back. Well that was today. It all started when stupid daylight savings time happened. My body was a bitch and woke me up at 3am instead of my normal time of 4am. Let’s just say that was not how I wanted to start my morning.  Then it took me FOREVER to get ready like longer than usual. I just have no motivation to get ready or get dressed. Then the drive to work was horrible I have about a 45 minute drive to and from work each and every day and it was foggier than shit and you couldn’t see two feet in front of you. Now we are at the point we are at work. I slip and my knee pops so now I’m suffering from the worse knee pain through out the whole day, but do I tell anyone or complain no because I’m a hard worker and I don’t let pain or anything get in the way. Then I’m at work doing my thing and now at this point my customers are being completely rude towards me for no reason we had a big convention in house and people thought it would be ok to check in at 630 in the morning when we were completely sold out the night before, and give you attitude over it. Well standard check in time is at 4pm ma’am we will do our best to get you into your room. Then after getting yelled at by countless people then the managers and co workers start to pick on you to the point where you can’t take it anymore and you lay everything out on the table with your big boss. Well more so wrote a note on how you’ve been feeling lately because she wasn’t in the office. By this time it’s now 2pm and it’s time to go home, and after I clock out I drive home and just sit back and relax and forget about everything and not going to think about my co-workers or work for the next 3 days. Now mind you this I RARELY ever have horrible days, but today was the one that just pushed me over the limits with my guests, and also my co-workers that decided of all days to pick on me.

 

But do you ever have those moments where you just want to break down and forget about everything? Your body can handle so much stress and emotions before it can break. Well let’s just say today my body was on the point of breaking. But in the end you have to push everything a side and fight through it. How do you fight through your issues? Honestly I’m still in the process of trying to figure that one out myself. Yes I do have a journal that I write everything that I don’t want to post down and put it in my secret hiding spot. But in the end that isn’t enough to release the stress that my body has. I want to hear from you my lovely readers. How do you handle your stress? I’m looking for cheap or free ways to handle stress. I need to rid my life of all this stress. I mean there’s some days where my stress turns into depression and anxiety and those are the WORST combinations ever to have. But again how do I fix those issues I just write down my feelings and then pop in a movie and turn off all the lights and shut my self away from the world until the feeling rolls over. Should I get put on medication? No because I’m not at that point where I want to end my life over it. I just let it run out of my system and I’m back to my normal self again. Does it suck? Oh hell yeah It’s the worst feeling in the world like everyone is against you and the whole world hates you, and you feel like your worthless in everyone’s eyes. You feel like you don’t belong in anyone’s eyes. People sometimes say oh you can just make it go away like that but in reality if you really do suffer from it you can’t just make it go away. Or the famous one I hear most of the time “oh are you faking it” How can you fake something that’s so serious? Explain that one to me? Oh wait here’s another good one Don’t you have to have a doctor tell you that you have depression? In my opinion NO you don’t if you feel upset and down or the point where your heart aches so much you don’t want to do anything or where you just want to lay in bed and no move and lastly feeling like everyone is turning there backs on you and you feel like the world hates you. That my friend is depression.

 

But again readers I want to hear from you talk to me guys how do you handle all your issues?

 

Until Next time

 

Megan S.

Why does society suck?

Good Afternoon readers!

So here is one for you what happened to the people of the world today? When did we become so freaking judgmental and shallow? I mean shit in today’s society every guy wants the “perfect” girl the model types you see in magazines or some girls want that “perfect” on screen movie boyfriend. I mean come on people is this what society has come down to? Judging people?

Perfect girl description:

  • Big boobs
  • perfect skin
  • the right height
  • blonde
  • skinny
  • big butt

Perfect guy description:

  • muscles
  • abs
  • nice butt
  • perfect hair
  • great smile
  • tall

What about us average people? Because I can tell you this i’m by far NOT the perfect girl! I’ve got meat on these bones I’m not skinny what so ever. Blonde hair? nope that is non existence on my head. The right height? nope I’m not 5’5″ I’m a few inches taller. See average Jane.

When did society become so shallow and sickening saying that you have to look like this or you won’t get the perfect relationship or even married. Why is it when you see TV commercials or anything it’s all perfect people? Where do you find these people? or do you just make them up in the labs? NEWS FLASH no one is perfect everyone has flaws in them and then you have society judge them. Like a girl that’s perfect in every way but she has a crooked tooth or stretch marks on her body and men think that’s not attractive. I swear TV and music videos do this to us because when your watching TV or the newest music video you don’t see anyone with flaws. You see that perfect “playboy” girl or that guy that comes right from the beach. Today’s society JUST SUCKS! And please tell me if I’m wrong.

But enough venting about this I want to hear from you readers what are your thoughts on today’s society and “body shaming” on my Facebook page by clicking here.

Until Next time

Megan S

IT was a real treat…..

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Well just this past weekend my best friend and I went to see the famous movie that everyone has been talking about since it’s hit TV commercials… IT and honestly I’m going to lay out everything that I liked and disliked about the movie… I’m going to tell you now if you haven’t seen the movie yet I would advise you to stop reading this now and close out of the window, or you will be reading at your own risk. I don’t want to spoil anything if you haven’t seen the movie yet. That wouldn’t be nice, but if you have read this far you have been warned.
Fun fact: the original IT came out in 1990 and the remake came out in 2017… If you remember from the movie IT comes out of hiding every 27 years…..
Well for starters….. When I was about four or five my cousin and I we’re watching this movie and that is what made me to even this day terrified of clowns. Just something about them freak me out no matter what. Like why you always got to be smiling and shit. ( WARNING will be some mild language) Just the clown in actually both movies from the 1990’s and the 2017 were both creepy as shit! Just the way the actor did everything was perfect the way he played out his role! If I can attempt to find the link to this video I found on Facebook about the original IT and the new one I’m going to post it at the bottom where it’s a side by side version of both movies, and it’s like identical!

see side by side CLICK HERE
I’m honestly so grateful that they kept everything as close as possible! Which is a good thing if you are going to remake I think most everyone from the 90’s favorite horror movie. I mean when I was younger it was a scary ass movie but I still enjoyed it. I honestly think I have the original VHS somewhere in my house. Yes I did say VHS I need to invest in it on DVD.
Another thing that I did enjoy about the movie is that each and every character was perfect in fitting in each and every role and shit, they almost all looked like the original character from the 90’s. LOL for some odd reason my favorite person was Ben. I think that was his name I’m totally drawing a blank right now, but i bet you anything once i finish posting this blog it will come rushing back to me. But just the way all the people acted in their roles and when they picked out each person for the movie they did everything so perfect! The one person that I hated in the whole entire movie was Henry! Like I seriously wanted to like punch him if i could every time he popped up on-screen, but again they did a perfect job finding someone to play that role. I just wonder how much time and practice each and every one of them have to do in order to get into that character. Now don’t get me started on Bill Skarsgard who played Pennywise!Image result for Pennywise He made me even more terrified of clowns after I seen this movie! He did a FANTASTIC job at playing Pennywise. Just the way he looked with all this make up and the way he acted was amazing!
So before I get to caught up in all the characters the one down fall that I HATED with a passion (SPOILER ALERT) was the ending! The ending was just terrible in my opinion! I hated how it just ended when Pennywise was falling down the well and like falling into pieces and blowing away, then the kids do a blood pact and go on their merry ways and it ending with the Chapter 1. They could have honestly done a little better with the ending, because now I’m going to be wondering for however long it takes to see what happens in Chapter 2. That’s if there even is a chapter 2. You never know with movies now a days they could run out of money and just shut it down completely. Just like what happened with the Divergent series. They the last movie but in two parts and there is NO PART TWO! But anyways going back to IT. But there’s so many unanswered questions in a way that I want to know what happened. Like did Billy and Beverly end up together?
What about Ben and Beverly?
who the heck is Mike and what’s his story?
What about Pennywise?
Is he going to come back in 27 years?
Will each person have their own family that Pennywise is going to come after?
What happened to Beverly’s father?
What’s behind Beverly’s father? Like what are his motives?
Oh and here’s a question that I wondered two during the end scene was it true loves Kiss to make Beverly come out of the spell?
I mean shit this list can go on for days I think.
But readers I want to hear from you in the comments below If you have seen the movie Did you like it? What were your thoughts on it? Or you can always comment on my Facebook page as well. I like to get involved in what my readers are thinking about the same topics as well.
Image result for PennywiseDid you like or dislike the movie?
Me there were some moments where I was like they could have done better or what not but from what everyone was making it seem like being super scary and all that it really wasnt that scary at all. It had a great story line besides the unanswered questions and the characters did a fantastic job!
If I could rate movies I would give it a 4 out of 5

But until next time

Megan S.

My Own Advice

So why is it whenever someone asks you for advice you give some bomb ass good advice but in return you NEVER listen to your own advice. Like when it comes to relationships and love and all that type of shit I give the best advice sometimes but in the end down the road I never listen to my own. No wonder why I’m single. It’s like sometimes we don’t like to hear the truth but in the end you have to in order to make that right decision. I mean sometimes people come to me with there relationship issues, and it’s like uhm well I’m currently single so why are you asking me and not your friend that has the special someone. And the responds I get sometimes is  well Megan you give great advice and your understanding and don’t sugar coat it. Which is true if you I don’t like your boyfriend/ girlfriend or I feel like something is off about them hell yeah i’m going to say something and you can either take it or leave it. It’s your call. Why sugar coat your answers when you know the truth? Because you want your friend to be happy about it? No because in the end if you sugar coat it and down that road something would happen, and they would blame you for it somehow saying we talked about this and yet you said stay. But there are some rules about giving advice or the rules that I give myself when helping someone out

Rule Number 1: Never and I mean NEVER get way too involved when giving your opinion.

Rule Number 2: DO NOT sugar coat your answers, They are coming to you for help and need your honest opinion. Don’t say one thing if you are thinking another thing. 

Rule Number 3: If you don’t think you have a answer for them just be flat out and honest and don’t lie to them to make them feel better.

When giving that special advice always be truthful and honest. 

Now I just need to take my own advice in the relationship department and see where it gets me. 

Until next time

 

Megan S. 

Dear little Brother:

Sometimes I wonder if it’s even worth it anymore, the time, the money, the hours I spent. Seems like I’m the last option that you need, or whenever you want something that’s when you talk to me.  Sometimes i wonder if your just another face in the crowd of people i pass on a daily. Ever since you went away and come back on breaks you’ve changed. We used to be so close but now i’m always your last option. Family should come first no matter what but it feels like we’re not even family anymore just two people that live under the same roof. What happened to us we used to be so close even though we had our differences back then we would fight and not even 24 hours later we made up and are laughing at how stupid this fight was. Why do you like hurting me and saying hurtful things to me to make my depression so outraged to the point i don’t want to do anything anymore. Why? Why put me through the pain? Sometimes i wish i could just run away from this and never look back but ur blood, and you can never turn your back on blood. But you did it seems like. What did i ever do to you to deserve the tears and pain you put me through? Do you even want an older sister anymore? or should i just disappear? because that’s the way your making me feel. Like i’m just another ghost in the air. Do you want me to run away and never look back and pretend that you don’t exist? because that’s how i feel in your life right now. We used to laugh talk and joke around do nothing anymore not even a hello here or there. What have we become little brother? Strangers? Do you even understand how much it hurts me to lose my best friend? Yes you are or were my best friend little brother until you pushed me into the dark. Family is forever friends come and go and i seem like i’m just your friend and not family. Dear little brother do you like seeing me in all this pain you put me through? Do i have to act happy when deep down i feel an empty space in me. Dear little brother should i just walk away and pretend that you never even existed?

 

Megan S.

Depression

de·pres·sion
dəˈpreSH(ə)n/
noun
1.
  1. feelings of severe despondency and dejection.
    “self-doubt creeps in and that swiftly turns to depression”
    2.
    a long and severe recession in an economy or market.
    “the depression in the housing market”

What’s my meaning of depression if you are wondering? Well my meaning is nothing like what the dictionary said.

Megan’s Meaning of Depression:

The meaning of feeling alone and useless in the world. The meaning where no one has your back when you need them the most. Also the meaning of not being wanted anymore. The feeling of being lost in the world or not even existing at all…

That’s my meaning of the word depression, and before you go all Megan what are you doing? Why are you writing all this. NO I’m NOT trying to do the whole 13 reasons why thing. It’s just I have to write down my feelings somehow, and you can choose to keep reading or closing out and going to a different blog.

What started this feeling of being alone and useless in the world? Well it goes as far back as my high school years you can say. Always being bullied by the popular kids, getting picked on, sat on, pretty much just a person living in the shadows. You think that popular person saying hi to you in the halls just to make your day but in the back of your head you are thinking are they truly being nice or are they just saying it to hold up their popularity status? Your trying your hardest to get through the worst four years of your life getting picked on, made fun of because of your looks wether your chubby or not or you have pimples or the list can go on, to being one of the smartest people in the school. People will always pick on you no matter what, and yes I went through that the whole four years of my life, and as I graduated high school I thought it would get better, but it doesn’t

Which brings us a few years later when I try to get into the dating world. Yes my track record for dating isn’t the greatest because all the guys i’ve ever met are complete tool bags. Let’s just say they all suck! Meeting up and leading me on to the point I think i’m actually going to get a relationship with this guy, but in the end they just tear me down to the point where I feel worthless. The excuse I get? I’m not ready for a relationship, It’s not you it’s me, Or my all time favorite that wins the cake. “You are too ugly or fat for my liking.” I’m just tired of always being a let down in everyones eyes. Which brings me to my final section of this blog

Being a big let down in my friends and families eyes. Even though you all don’t say I’m the let down but some of you I’m not going to mention names always try to compare me to my brother or vice versa. Yes he went to an away school after high school, but when I wanted to go to an out of state school you flat out told me no. You told me I had to go to community college or stay in the state. Why does he get the special treatment? Look I’m sorry for being a big negative Nancy in your life, and I’m sorry. I’m sorry for being a let down in your eyes and not going places. Lastly friend wise whether it’s at work or out of work friends. I just feel like I’m a disappointment to you as well, and always have the fear of always being talked to behind my back and not wanting to be around me anymore. Am I really that bad of a friend? or Daughter/Sister?

Honestly is it even worth being around people anymore knowing in the back of your mind your playing all these scenarios of which is worse? Where do I go from here? Do I keep playing this game and acting like I’m ok? Or do I go and get help for it?

 

Megan S.